Recently, one of my friends posted on Facebook what a good year 2011 had been for him–reading this, I was briefly taken aback because “2011” and “good year” were such incongruent terms in my life. It was momentarily hard for me to imagine that a year that had been so full of suffering for me could have been, at the same time, a great year for someone else. Although I am blessed with a sunny outlook and true gratitude for the good in my life, I entered 2011 with a badly broken heart and the ensuing months were an at-times grueling exercise in ‘getting through it.’ It has only been in the last three or four months that I have finally felt the fog dissipating and the heavy concrete lifting from what I thought was its permanent place upon my chest.
Each year, one of my dear friends, Maria, holds a ‘Let it Go’ ceremony on the last day of the year. In the past, participants would write all over a helium balloon the things they wanted to ‘leave behind’ in the old year and not carry with them into the new year–things like anger, fear, heartbreak, what-have-you. This year, we learned that balloons cause harm to marine life, so we decided instead to write lists of the things we would be letting go of and burn them, and like the mythical phoenix, our new resolve could rise from the ashes.
We gathered this morning at a small Mayan ruin in Playacar, on an incredibly gorgeous, sunny day across from the sparkling Caribbean Sea. After a brief, but personal and touching ceremony, each of us burned our lists and let it all go.
My friends, I wish you peace, love, prosperity and good health in this new year and may you find the strength to let go of the things that are weighing you down and holding you back from happiness and the things you want for your lives. I believe in me and I believe in you, too.
Finally, I would like to leave you with one of my favorite poems by e.e.cummings:
let it go – the
smashed word broken
open vow or the oath cracked length
wise – let it go it
was sworn to
let them go – the
truthful liars and
the false fair friends
and the boths and
neithers – you must let them go they
let all go – the
big small middling
tall bigger really
the biggest and all
things – let all go
so comes love